I hope you find peace and stillness today, and that you hold space for yourself as we talk about something very close to my heart: stepping into the belief that you are worthy of love—your own love, and God’s love.

For a long time, I struggled to believe that I was worthy of love. Almost 28 years passed where I felt like I wasn’t enough—like my mistakes, my imperfections, my failures had disqualified me from being worthy of my own love, let alone God’s love. I put up walls around my heart, believing I had to prove my worth, fix everything, and be perfect before I could be deserving of that love.

But here’s the truth I’ve come to know: You are worthy of love simply because you exist.

You are worthy of your own love, of God’s love, of love from others—not because of what you do or how perfectly you perform, but because you are a creation of God, and that in itself makes you worthy. It took me a long time to step into that belief, and it wasn’t easy. But the journey toward self-love is one that starts with a simple truth: you were never meant to earn love; you were always meant to receive it.

How did I begin to believe I was worthy?

It started with the smallest steps. I began by challenging the negative beliefs I had carried for so long—the thoughts that told me I wasn’t enough. And I had a few friends that challenged me as well. But when those voices in my head said I didn’t deserve love, I learned to pause and ask, Why not? What made me believe I had to be perfect to be worthy of love? Why did I believe that my imperfections disqualified me from grace?

It wasn’t easy at first, but slowly, I began to realize that these negative beliefs were not the truth. They were the voices of fear, guilt, and shame that had taken root over the years. And just as I had learned to believe those lies, I could learn to believe a new truth: I am worthy of love, even in my imperfections.

Another pivotal moment came when I started to connect with God’s love in a deeper way. I began to see that God’s love for me was never conditional. He didn’t love me if I was perfect; He loved me because I was His. No amount of guilt or shame could ever diminish that love. When I accepted that truth, I realized that if God could love me—unconditionally, endlessly—then surely I could learn to love myself too.

But self-love, I’ve learned, isn’t just a feeling—it’s an action. It’s how you treat yourself in the quiet moments. It’s forgiving yourself when you make mistakes. It’s speaking kindly to yourself when that inner critic starts to tear you down. It’s giving yourself permission to rest, to ask for help, to be imperfect.

Stepping into the belief that you are worthy of love is a process, not a one-time decision. It’s something you cultivate every day, little by little, through the choices you make and the thoughts you entertain. And it’s okay if it takes time. Be patient with yourself. Remember, you are learning to undo years of self-doubt, and that takes GRACE.

If you’ve ever felt like I did—that you aren’t worthy of your own love or God’s love—I want you to know that you are. Right now, just as you are. You don’t need to prove anything. You are enough. You are loved.

Let’s close with a simple prayer for stepping into worthiness:

Dear Lord,

Help me to believe in the love You have for me. Teach me to see myself through Your eyes, as worthy, whole, and deserving of love. Show me how to break free from the lies of unworthiness that have kept me from loving myself. Guide me on this journey of self-compassion and self-acceptance, and let me feel Your grace in every moment. May I remember that I am worthy, not because of what I do, but because I am Yours. Amen.